Most of us like dirty talk. Whether it’s sweet suggestions whispered in the ear or nasty words spat out while our hair is being pulled, a little verbal theatrics gets most people going. For those that are warming up for some BDSM play, this is often pretty aggressive and might involve insulting or belittling someone, claiming not to be interested in them, or even mocking their sexual attractiveness. For couples who regular engage in aggressive or BDSM sex, this kind of “hard” dirty talk might be a frequent part of their relationship. Certainly, those who are involved with porn, phone sex or cam sex are making the most of the power of words.
Phone sex originated in an age when phones were stationary and had cords attached to them, you know, totally pre-historic! Part of the appeal of phone sex then, was that there was no visual component. The caller enjoyed the tones of the voice, the personality of the person on the other end, and the fantasies sparked by the dirty talk hat was exchanged. Phone sex has occurred between partners who were separated by distance, but it has also been a business for decades. Numbers with special per-minute rates were set up, staffed by women of all types, and callers were pleasured for money. What's interesting is that while phone sex between partners is sex, it also plays a part in their relationship, and can be a tool for maintaining or even increasing intimacy.