6 Tips for Great Phone Sex

Have you ever had phone sex? The thought of talking dirty on the phone while touching yourself, pretending to have sex with your partner, might be a great turn-on for some while totally off-putting for somebody else. For people in long-distance relationships, or for those who go away without their partners getting it on over the phone might be a great way of making that inevitable solo sex session into less-of-a-solo-session. If that’s something you fancy trying, here is how you proceed.

1. Test the waters

If you would like to suggest phone sex to your partner, it’s a good idea to gauge their possible reaction before going all out – just in case they are really not into it and things would turn oh-so awkward. You can build it up slowly, start by sending some sexy texts or saying mildly suggestive things on the phone. If you get a positive response, you can move on with the verbal seduction.

2. Set the scene

Get yourself in the mood. Dim the lights, have a glass of wine, think ahead what you want to talk about. You can even make the effort of dressing up – even if your partner can’t see you, you will feel sexier when you know you look good. Also, take care of practicalities such as making sure your phone has enough juice – you don’t want to be cut off in the middle of a phone-gasm.

3. It's all about the foreplay

Just like regular sex, phone sex should progress in stages. Going from “How was your day” to “Fuck me hard” might prove a bit too fast. The good old “what are you wearing” might work for some - and keeping that in mind, it’s good to have dressed up as mentioned before, unless you think “old T-shirt and joggers” will get your partner particularly horny. Alternatively, you can start with suggestive sentences in the lines of “I miss your touch” or “I really wish you were so that I could (insert-what-ever-you-would-like-to-do-to-them-right-then” and let the conversation flow naturally from there.

4. Lay down a good storyline

Letting the conversation flow doesn’t mean you shouldn’t think ahead. Just to avoid that awkward “what the hell do I say next” moment, you might want to prepare some sort of a general storyline. Engage in some fantasy you would like to do with your partner, try a bit of role play or talk about a particularly hot encounter you had in the past to get you going. Don’t get too stuck in the story though, in case your partner wants to take it to a different direction than what you had in mind to begin with – some flexibility will keep it interesting.

5. Let them hear you

In the absence of visual cues, your partner needs to hear your reactions. Don’t be afraid to be a bit louder than usually. Moaning, panting or even screaming, if you feel like it, will be ear candy for them. At the same time, listen to their reactions. If your partner is getting a bit quiet, the chances are they are not that into the direction you are going and you might want to try something else.

6. Add your own visuals

Of course, phone sex in itself is a little old-school. Since we all have the technology for it, you might as well go for web-cams or a little FaceTime or Skype. Being able to see your partner’s reactions to what you are doing to yourself, as well as seeing them doing it, can make the experience a whole lot hotter.

Doing it over the phone can be a great way of keeping the spark alive when the two of you can’t be together. Why not give it a go the next time you find yourself lusty while your partner is far, far away?



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