So, you're dating a gusher: 10 myths debunked

1. Squirting is for porn stars

It’s a tragedy that most men see squirting as an act that only porn stars perform, instead of what it really is: another dimension that women can add on to an already great sex life. Female ejaculation can reduce stress, release healing hormones, feel amazing and form part of a loving relationship

2. She can’t control herself

Squirting may appear to the unaware man like she’s just lost control, but that’s not what's going on. A woman can just as easily stop it from happening, just like she can control if she pees or not. Still, it feels amazing for her—enjoy that and that she was comfortable enough to let go and enjoy it.

3. Female ejaculate is pee

The ejaculate that comes gushing out isn't pee at all. Many women complain of the sensation of needing to pee during foreplay and sex—this is due to the pressure of the Skene’s gland filling up. It feels similar to the unexperienced woman, but it comes from a different place.

The asparagus experiment proves this; if a woman eats a lot of asparagus 5 hours before sex her pee will smell strongly of it, but what she gushes out during sex won’t at all, proving they are completely separate liquids.

4. Squirting is weird and unnatural

The idea of ejaculation that doesn't make babies might seem weird to most men, but that's just envy. A woman can squirt and not feel tired or sleepy at all after, and she can do it many times in a night. Squirting is natural, and can be part of a great sex life. If you're dating a gusher, explore with her and and let’s bring gushing out of the depths of seedy porn sets!

5. It means you’re a playa

Making her gush buckets ddoesn'tmean the guy is a sex god, and conversely if he doesn't make her squirt it doesn't mean he sucks in the bedroom either. It can take time to create familiarity, trust and intimacy and to understand how each particular woman climaxes. Don’t take it as a sign of your personal self-worth either way.

6. It’s easy to do it again

So you made her gush last night, but don’t think she can do it straight away upon entering the boudoir. Yes your chances of making it happen a second time are higher, but if you're dating a gusher she still needs to be fully aroused and ready to bust if you want to do it again. The Skene's gland fills up over time during arousal, which is why foreplay is so important.

Letting her know that you intend to make her gush her lovely juices out probably isn't the best way to go about it either. Pressure from a lover creates outcome dependence and will kill your chances of it happening a second time.

7. Just once is enough

The best time to make her gush is right after she’s done it the first time. She will be at the height of arousal and familiar with how it feels to squirt, so don’t stop after one go. Women can have, multiple and stacked squirting orgasms, but that’s another topic entirely.

8, 9 and 10. That you won't want to do it again.

Sure, it'll take trust, intimacy and time, but if you're dating a gusher, it's worth it.