Beginners Guide to Swinging | How to Find a Healthy Community

Swinging (aka partner swapping) has been around for ages, but how do you go about finding a healthy community? Fuck asked Sienna Saint-Cyr to share her desire to start swinging and how she’s gone about finding groups that align with her needs.

Swinging for beginners

The swing lifestyle isn’t just about partner swapping. It can be, but it doesn’t have to be. Sometimes swinging is simply having sexual encounters with someone other than your primary partner, and this is where my current draw is.

I am usually polyamorous. Unlike polyamory, which tends to include an emotional connection, swinging leans more toward a sexual encounter. It can be with someone you don’t know in a one-night stand, or someone you meet with every Tuesday after work for a wild fuck. 
 

Why swing?

Right now, I have two full-time partners and one long distance relationship. I don’t have time for more relationships, but there are things I desire sexually that I’m not able to get from my current partners. So while I’ve always leant toward polyamory, now I’m looking for something different.

My hope is to find people that I’m comfortable having sexual relations with but without expectation afterwards. It’s important to me that I explore some aspects of my sexuality with new people, and swinging seems like the right choice.
 

Where to begin swinging?

Since I know a lot of swingers, I had folks to go to for information. Like where do I meet others that have the same desires? There were suggestions given, like googling local munches and swing groups, but what I kept finding were people too far away or scenarios where the couple wanted to swap partners. Since neither of my current partners is into this, that’s not an option for me.

I also found a lot of the local swing clubs required both partners to attend even if they weren’t participating. If I had a partner to take, I could have my first swing club experience right there in the building because sex is allowed on location as long as rules are followed. But the whole ‘needing a partner with me’ thing was getting in the way.

I asked around and found out that some of the rules stem from couples that struggle with jealousy. So having a fair swap is necessary to their staying happy. Others have difficulty — especially some of the men — with their wife’s first swing. By having both parties active, the adjustment to sharing is easier.

While I completely understand those needs, my polyamory doesn’t work that way. So I’ve had to look further. I had to find groups that were big orgy parties, or that was open to single people coming in for sex. Since I’m also kinky, having the option to add a little dominance and submission, or maybe some pain to the play would make for a more exciting encounter.  

The swinging community is much larger than I realised, and you will find something to meet your needs for your first time swinging.

My swinging solution

Finally, one of my friends connected me with Slutgarden out of the Portland and Seattle areas. They are a group of Supersluts that get together for all sorts of slutastic events. They aren’t advertised as a swinging specific community, but within this community, my friend assures me I’ll be able to find willing partners.
 
Since some of these events are at a hotel and rent out the entire wing, the swinging parties can move from room to room, and I can pretty much explore in any way I’d like. And there are groups and events like this all over!
 
The UK offers up some great swinging clubs as well. Places like Radlett Parties, Our Place 4 Fun, and Jaydees offer a variety of options for seasoned swingers as well as those going for their first time swinging. Some are members only but not all. I suggest looking some of these clubs up and reading the reviews to make sure you get a positive swing club experience.
 
For me, the priorities are openness and ability to go without a partner, the club must be clean and have a good reputation, and can’t cost me a fortune to attend.
 

Off to the swinging races!

My next step is to take part in one of these events and find myself some swinging partners! Of course, safety is always a priority. There are condoms, gloves, dental dams, and the like. I also plan to ask around and see what peoples’ reputations are before venturing down a sexual path with them. So now it’s off to the races!
 
Once I have my first swinging experience, I’ll be back here on fuck to write about it! If you’re curious about swinging or if you’ve taken part, we want to hear about your swing club experience! Leave us a comment or start a thread!