Ass Worship | What is a Rim Job?

Rimming is a term you may have heard before, but what is a rim job? Popcorn.dating has asked author Sienna Saint-Cyr to shed a little light on this taboo subject and discuss what a rim job is, the best ways to give and receive, and safety tips.

The Taboos of Ass Worship

Rimming (also known as tossing the salad, anilingus, or analingus) is when you pleasure your partner’s anus with your tongue. The first time I heard of this, all I could think was eww. Liking oral sex is one thing. Most folks can agree it’s hot and feels great but talk about licking bum, and suddenly people shudder. Including me, at first.
 
The more I opened to the idea, the more I realised that being rimmed can be just as hot as vaginal or penis oral sex. Part of why anal sex can feel so great is that there are so many nerve endings in the anus. Which also makes rimming feel so incredibly good.
 
For some, the taboo aspect of licking the anus can be just as arousing for the person giving. It’s forbidden in ways that other oral sex and anal sex used to be. As we’ve grown and expanded our limits as a society, we've opened up for new areas of exploration.
 

Giving and Receiving a Rim Job

When it comes to giving and receiving, there are certain things to keep in mind.

While some may love the dirty aspect to rimming someone without prep, most that I’ve spoken with prefer their partner properly cleaned first. This may include a soaking bath and gentle soap around the anus first, which can play nicely into foreplay and build-up. If you plan on venturing inside the anus at all, an enema can help clean out some of the potential toxins there.

Once clean, the next step is finding a good position.

Reaching the anus with your tongue isn’t as easy as it sounds. The best position I’ve found is when the receiver is on their hands and knees. This gives straight access to the anus and even allows for some grip and pressure to be applied as well.

Remember, there are a lot of nerve endings there! Light can be great, but so can some firmer licks as well. Or anal massage with a finger while the tongue assists. Pressure, swirling the tongue, firm and full licks compared to just the tip touching the anus, all of these things make for a more pleasurable experience. Mix it up just as you would any other oral sex. 

Are Rim Jobs for Everyone?

When I first learned of rimming, I was taken aback at how many people assumed this was something only gay men did. The more I looked into it, the more I wondered, do straight men like being rimmed? Do women like being rimmed?

It didn’t take long for me to realise that rimming was just as much for heterosexual couples as it was my gay friends. The biggest noticeable difference wasn’t between gay and straight couples, but instead between couples willing to explore different forms of pleasure, compared to those fearful of doing something so taboo. Rimming is for all brave enough to try it.
 

Safety

When it comes to ass play and the tongue, there are safety measures folks should consider. Rimming can spread STDs/STIs. What this means is that all the standard rules should apply.
 
- Get tested before playing with a new partner
- Get frequently tested if you have multiple partners
- Use a dental dam
- Avoid rimming during times of gum flare-ups or haemorrhoid flare-ups
- Be clean
 
Can you get HIV from being rimmed or giving a rim job?

According to Aidsmap and The HIV Helpline, rimming is classified as a negligible risk. What that means is that there is a potential for spreading blood-born pathogens, but there aren’t necessarily documented cases. The example given is that you may get HIV from the person giving if the giver has bleeding gums and the receiver anal tears (however microscopic). Using dental dams and getting proper testing can help with safety.
 
Another vital thing to keep in mind is that bacteria in the anus can cause some pretty nasty infections — like bacterial vaginosis in women. And in men with foreskin, any parts hidden where bacteria can grow easily are also at risk. It’s important that rimming is done last. Never lick someone’s anus and then take your mouth to another sex organ.
 

Explore!

Now that we’ve covered cleanliness, best position, and safety, it’s time to explore! If you or your partner are nervous, ask around in the popcorn.dating forum. Find out what folks like and don’t like about licking bum. As always, leave us a comment or share your thoughts on rimming! 


Sienna Saint-Cyr writes erotica and blogs about kink, poly, body image, most things relating. Find and follow her on Popcorn.dating.