Strap-on sex: Get into pegging

To some women, bending a man over and fucking him with a dildo may seem pretty extreme, but huge numbers of men and women are becoming curious about the idea of pegging.  Essentially it involves a woman wearing a strap-on to have anal sex with a man, whilst her pleasure is taken care of by a dildo or other toy which stimulates her with each thrust.

If you want to experiment with pegging, take it easy

Starting anal play before you’re ready can be uncomfortable and off putting, but if your partner gets you in the mood beforehand with some kinky foreplay, the orgasms can be body-shaking. Take it easy at first with some gentle massage around the anal area that relaxes the muscles, this is a highly sensitive spot but it’s far more delicate than a vagina. You can make sure the outer ring of muscle isn’t tensed up with a little concentration, but inside you’ll need to push down in order to be penetrated pleasurably.

Smooth on the lube

Lube is your friend during a pegging session. Remember: Butts need to be warmed up. Start with a finger or two before moving on to the dildo. If you're up for it, rimming can also be a massive tease before pegging.

Get into the best position for you

Stimulating the prostate while pegging is easy because it swells when a man gets turned on, if your partner is using a dildo you may need to experiment with a few positions before reaching one with the right amount of depth and a perfect angle. If you enjoy a lot of cock play, then get into a position where she can reach you. For plenty of thrust however, you’ll probably need to go from behind.

Some women love to be the penetrator

Women want to fuck men for different reasons, some love watching a man become vulnerable and others enjoy seeing the look on their man’s face as they are penetrated. The situation is unusual too and creates a feeling of role reversal; for once it’s the guy on his hands and knees with his ass all ready and waiting.
The psychological aspect of pegging is a massive draw for many women because it subverts gender roles and makes us feel like we've got a new superpower. Having a strap-on between your legs is a very physical reminder of your new potential and ability to dominate.

It’s not just about dominance and strength, women also have the power of the pleasure giver and can control a man’s orgasm in a deliberate way. Instead of being penetrated, she’s running the show, she can change the angle, alter her rhythm, do whatever she likes - and that’s part of the thrill.

Try out the forbidden

There’s something about anal play that’s wonderfully taboo, it’s seen as a bit dirty and illicit, but that’s why it feels so damn kinky. Gay men have been lapping up the full-body orgasm a good p-spot romp can deliver for years, now straight men are getting in on the action as well.

A man has to have a lot of confidence to let go and completely trust another person to penetrate him, so the first time may not be the best. If it hurts just ask her to go slower or stop all together, it takes a while to master the art of anal sex. Maybe get her to use her fingers on you in foreplay a few times, before wearing a strap-on.

If you’re slightly bashful about giving it a go, why not check out one or two examples of the vast online porn inspiration that’s on offer. This could also be a great way to bring up the idea with a partner who’s new to the concept of pegging. Bend Over Boyfriend is a classic in the pegging genre - it’s as much informative as it is hardcore and there’s even some humour thrown in.

We get pleasure too, of course!

With the amount of toys out there you’re almost certain to find one that works for you both, but it’s really a matter of personal preference. Double ended toys let girls control their own orgasm, but for more intense stimulation she might love the buzz that vibrating dildos provide. Alternatively, some women position a little clitoral vibrator into their harness before wearing a strap-on for sex.

When it’s done right, pegging can add a new dimension to your sex life and be an intoxicating experience for both the giver and receiver. If it’s your first time, try it with someone you trust and have a great sexual rapport with to maximise the intimacy and arousal.

 

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