Male Masturbation Isn’t Gross, It’s Hot and Here’s Why

It's Masturbation Month here on Popcorn.dating. This week, Kayla Lords gets to grips with Male masturbation and shares her view on why it's so hot. 
 

Everyone has at least one thing that gets them hot, right? The thing that when you picture it in your head, you squirm in your chair and wonder when you can be alone to take care of that feeling.

For me, that thing is male masturbation. It’s not gross. It’s not creepy. And it’s not something that has to be a secret my partner keeps from me.  Male masturbation is hot as hell. And it should be celebrated as the erotic act it can often be.

The Lies We Believe About Male Masturbation
 

I vividly remember my early teenage years. We whispered in the halls at school about sex and masturbation, giggling over who we thought was jacking off. It was never the hot guy because he wouldn’t “need” too. No, it was always the scrawny, lonely, or nerdy kid. Ironically, all the guys I would eventually be drawn to and want to fuck.

Even the guys teased among themselves about it. Comments I didn’t fully understand about socks and sheets. Possible blindness. The hairy palm jokes were the worst. No one even had to say “jack off” - they’d just demand to see each other’s palms. It was all code for, “I know what you do by yourself.”

Guys from every walk of life masturbate. Women do too, although fewer of us, and many of us don’t or won’t admit it. Masturbation isn’t the purview of the lonely and desperate virgin who can’t get a partner. To a young and stupid kid, it might be laughable and gross because we’re uncomfortable, but as adults, it’s time to get real about masturbation.

Nearly everyone does it, and those of us who do, enjoy it. And if we could, many of us would masturbate more often than we do. So why is it so “gross” that men do it?


 

Male Masturbation is Hot
 

Watching a guy hold his cock in a firm grip, stroking it at his perfect pace with just the right amount of pressure is a fetish of mine. I could watch it all day. I don’t necessarily want to participate. Well, sometimes I do. But this is one of my few voyeuristic desires. 
 

Why?
 

When it comes to sex and relationships, cis hetero male pleasure has dominated the conversation for all of time and history. But something about masturbation has always been seen as less than. As if a “real” man should be able to find a partner to fuck, and if he has to touch himself there’s something wrong with him. There’s so much wrong with all of that thinking; I’d need another thousand words to go into it.

So maybe some of the hotness is the taboo of it. I’ll admit that’s a possibility. But for me, it’s also about the raw pleasure. This is a man at his most vulnerable, sexually. The way his face contorts as the orgasmic pleasure builds. The throb of his cock as it becomes rock hard and a deeper color.

Men who sometimes never make a sound while fucking almost can’t help themselves as their self-pleasure takes over. Grunts, groans, and moans you never get to hear otherwise escape from them at this moment.

I don’t necessarily care about watching them come. Frankly, if I’m close enough to reach out and touch a man who’s jacking off, I may ask if I can take over towards the end and fuck or suck them until they do. But witnessing their rising pleasure that they create for themselves? It’s intimate and hot as hell.

If we can make watching a woman get fucked, touch herself, use a vibrator, or any number of sexual acts and derive pleasure from the view, we should be able to do it with men, too. For my part, I’ll take that challenge and keep looking for opportunities to watch men masturbate, especially during Masturbation Month.

P.S. Because it needs to be said. Consensual viewing of male masturbation is delicious to watch. Unsolicited dick pics, GIFs, or videos as well as the creeper/flasher on the bus/train/wherever who diddles himself in front of unsuspecting people - not okay. Keep it in your pants, boys, until you know you have permission to whip it out and show it off.

 

Kayla Lords is a freelance writer, sex blogger, and a masochistic babygirl living the 24/7 D/s life. Follow her on her website or on Twitter @Kaylalords.