4 Ways to Give the Gift of Multiple Orgasms

‘Tis the season for stressing out over what to buy, how much to spend, and what gift to give your partner. Is it too soon to buy him underwear? Would a new vacuum make her mad? Can you give your partner a ring without sending mixed signals? 

It’s all so stressful!

Give Your Partner the Gift of Multiple Orgasms

How about a gift that doesn’t cost any money, requires only your time, let’s you both get naked, and will likely end with both of you having a good time?

I say give your partner an orgasm - lots of them.

Celebrate the 12 days of Christmas with 12 different orgasms. Put a vibe on your shopping list. Wrap a bow around you, wait until you’re naked, and then show your partner how much you appreciate them.

Whatever you do, give your partner multiple orgasms this holiday season!

1. Try a New Toy

Have two holidays this year. Unwrap presents with your friends and family, and laugh about ugly sweaters. Later, when the lights are out, and the wine is almost gone, have a private celebration. Buy a vibe or another toy guaranteed to give one or both of you plenty of orgasms. Vibrating cock rings, prostate massagers, vibrating dildos, rabbits - there’s a toy for almost everyone. Anything that can hit your partner’s most sensitive spots and have them screaming your name (or a deity's name) will be the present they remember forever.

2. Pay Attention

Even if you and your partner are still new to one another in bed, you can have plenty of orgasms. Take your time and watch your partner’s reactions. Whether you use a toy, hand, mouth, or anything else, keep your eyes on each other. When they stop reacting, try something new. If they hold your hand (or head) in place, keep doing that thing, whatever it is, until they’re a shaking mess. Listen to the sounds they make. Even quiet people will often show sure signs of pleasure - a hitched breath, a gasp, and sometimes, a low moan. Don’t assume you know what they like because a former partner loved it that way. It’s okay to ask, “Is this good?” Believe me; they’ll let you know.

3. Mix It Up

If you always give your partner a blow job and finish it off with a good fucking, do something different. If clit stimulation is the fastest way to an orgasm, go with the slowest way (for me, that’s a g-spot orgasm). A quick fingering might get her wet, but long, slow licks may drive her over the edge. It’s easy to fall into a rut, even when you’re getting each other off. Try something you haven’t done in a while or a new, shared fantasy. You might be surprised at the reaction you get.

4. Prolong the Build Up

In kink, edging is a standard part of the power play between partners. Edging means bringing your partner to the brink of an orgasm and then backing off or denying them release. Even if you’re not kinky, you can benefit from this kind of play. Rub, stroke, lick, and suck your partner to the edge of an orgasm. Make sure they’re writhing, screaming, struggling, or promising they’re about to come. And then stop and focus on some other part of their body (in a pleasurable way, of course).

When you go back to what you were doing originally, and they finally orgasm, it will likely be bigger than usual. And if you can both stand it, teasing your partner like this over and over again for a while could create an even greater explosion at the end. If your partner makes it clear they don’t like this kind of play, don’t do it. But if they’re willing, play a game with yourself to see how long you can tease them before they come. I promise, your patience will be rewarded.

Relieve the stress and end the year right!

The holidays are a stressful time of year, even if we are all supposed to be filled with joy and hot chocolate. A few well-timed multiple orgasms are an excellent way to release all that tension. Instead of freaking out over the meaning of the gift you found in a store, give your partner something they’re sure to love - as many orgasms as you both want. Bonus points to you if you bring your partner to climax in a new, creative way that you can enjoy into the new year.

Kayla Lords is a freelance writer, sex blogger, and a masochistic babygirl living the 24/7 D/s life. Follow her on her website or on Twitter @Kaylalords.