Beginner’s Guide to Explore Group Sex

Group sex is a common fantasy for many. But is it really as exciting as it seems?
Popcorn Dating asked author Sienna Saint-Cyr to share some first orgy experiences.

A Guide to Group Sex

Since my teen years, I wondered what it would be like to have group sex. My fantasies were quite detailed too. I certainly had some wild times while younger, but my college years brought the real magic. 

At the time, I had a bunch of friends that were also eager to explore. The only problem was that none of us had ever had an orgy. And there weren’t sex clubs or swinger parties where we lived. We were quite limited in how we could gain knowledge. Porn was our only option. 

Preparation

Those of us that wanted to take part —ten total— began researching and coming up with things we were interested in doing. Those porn videos made everything look so perfect and easy! It was like watching a symphony of sexual ecstasy. Everyone moaning, smiling, screaming in pleasure. We were so eager to get started!

Some of the things we discussed were:

• Who wants to interact with who?
• Does anyone just want to watch?
• Is kissing, oral sex, or intercourse okay?
• Do any couples just want to be watched but not take part in touching others?
• Does everyone agree to use protection?

Even now, our items discussed are smart. They were just incomplete. Still, we had a lot figured out and finally settled on a plan of action. The beauty of group sex is that it varies. We didn’t all have to take part in fucking one another. We had options.

Since my boyfriend and I were new to orgies, we decided only to have sex each other. We were okay with touching, kissing, and watching others, but that was it. With our plan intact, we were off to our sex party!

The Orgy

Things started off slow. People were nervous, awkward, and I, being the instigator I am, started kissing my man. I wanted to get things rolling! Others followed my lead and began kissing their significant others. The sexual energy in the room elevated, and I naturally fed off of it. 

Soon, my boyfriend and I were deep into it, fucking hard, listening to those around us, watching them take part in their dirty acts, and then… there was the hand. A random hand under my ass. I had no idea to whom it belonged, just that it was there, sweaty, and feeling me! 
 

Swingers at a sex party 

The Trouble With Missing Information

While the person touching me didn’t do anything wrong, I didn’t anticipate how much it would bother me not to know whom it was. My head spun wildly trying to figure out who it was and that left me feeling distracted rather than in the heat of the moment. 

Then, the squeezing got harder and somewhat uncomfortable. I wanted to ask whoever was groping me to ease up, but because we hadn’t discussed what to do if one of us wanted to stop or wasn’t comfortable, I was too afraid to say anything and distract everyone. So I let it happen and didn’t enjoy myself as much because of it. 

More of the Unexpected

As the night moved on, all of us ended up clustered together in the centre of the room. We were touching and moving in motion, even though we weren’t all fucking each other. This was both smoking hot and terrifying, as I still didn’t know who had their hand under my ass! 

Eventually, the hand moved, and the distraction went away. Though, my comfort was short-lived.

Soon, a couple began fucking on my leg. I was lying down by this point, kissing my boyfriend, when a hairy ass made contact with my thigh, and random legs straddled him. They weren’t fully on me —thankfully— but enough so that his ass hair was chafing my skin. 

There was a sexy aspect to them fucking on me, but an aggravating one too. We’d overlooked many things, including my friend, who’d asked so sweetly to be penetrated on both ends, not realising she’d bounce between the men like a rag doll. 

We should’ve discussed more before, during, and after. 

Talking it Over

Communication is always vital. No one violated anyone or broke the rules. We were all having fun. But I don’t think any of us knew to expect random body parts to be slapping us, or seemingly disembodied hands feeling us up! Orgies aren’t like what the porn videos show us. They can be messy and chaotic, hot as fuck, or both.

If I were to organise an orgy now, I’d put a lot more into it. I’d have everyone write down their desires, and I’d send them to the group. I’d include a safeword, even if there’s no kink. I’d include discussion and check-ins during the orgy too. We need to speak up if we’re feeling uncomfortable. Anything that I’d suggest to a party of two having sex, I’d also suggest to the group. 

Remember, you’re there to enjoy yourself! Your pleasure matters! If you’re not having fun, speak up! Trust me; it’s not worth an hour of chaos because you don’t want to kill the mood. 

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