6 Reasons to fuck first

Fuck first. The words of advice columnist Dan Savage are well-known among his readers and listeners: if you have a big event coming up, be it dinner in a fancy restaurant or your own wedding, you should always have sex before rather than saving it till after. But why is that such a good idea? Here are a few reasons you and your partner should fuck first.

1. You’ll have better sex

Let’s face it—nobody is at the top of their game after a rich meal, a bottle of red wine and a steep bill. Food-coma sex is uninspired sex, but you can dodge that bullet by doing the deed before the meal has even begun.

2. The pressure will be off

There are a few occasions when there’s a steep expectation to have sex—like after a romantic Valentine’s Day dinner, or on your wedding night. Somehow, though, that expectation can be a mood-killer all by itself. Fuck first, it'll allow you to get on and enjoy yourself. If you are both in the mood for sex afterwards as well as before, you’ll both appreciate it more if it’s a bonus.

3. You’ll probably both have a better night out

There’s something wonderful about going out together right after having sex. You can feel the depth of your connection more strongly, and you’ll have the memory with you for the whole event. Imagine standing at the altar with someone you had raucous sex with a few scant hours earlier—it’s a fun, pleasantly dirty thought, right?

4. A bad night won’t ruin your sex life

Everyone has the occasional night out that doesn't go to plan. If you fuck first, a bad night out won’t put a cramp in your sex life—it’ll just be an ordinary crap night. You can go home and go straight to sleep with impunity, not having to worry that anyone will hold it against you.

5. You won’t want to leave early

People miss out on a lot of fun by leaving parties too early, but if you’re not desperate to get home while you’re still just about awake enough to get down to it then that won’t be a problem. There’s a lot of enjoyment to be got out of the tail-end of the night. Fuck first and then watch the sun rise.

6. It’ll strengthen your relationship

Very little is better for couple bonding than a healthy, enjoyable sex life with plenty of variety. Fuck first and you'll help to create that in a way you’ll both appreciate.

Abi Brown is a freelance writer and general pen-for-hire devoted to genre fiction, social justice and M.A.C lipstick. Follow her on her website or @see_abi_write.

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