Sexting Tips for When Adulting Gets Too Dull

We once had phone sex, then email and chat room sex, and now there are all sorts of options under the title sexting. But what is sexting? Does it simply mean sending dirty texts through your cell phone? What about the gazillion apps that allow us to instantly connect with any mobile device and send our dirtiest desires via words, photos, and videos? Yes, it’s all sexting…

When Adulting Get to be too Dull:

4 Hot Sexting Tips

Sexting is something I love doing. It keeps me going during the day. Not only is it fun, but it also allows me to be the depraved little slut that I am. While I’d really love to play all day, like most people my age, I must be an adult. Which means work, chores, and other monotonous daily tasks. Receiving and sending occasional messages keeps things from getting too boring as I am ‘adulting’.

For sexting to be effective, there are certain methods that I find work better than others. For instance, when I send messages to some people:

• I do it in present tense, 1st or 2nd person point of view. For instance, “I pinch your nipples.” Or, “You unbutton your pants. You touch your cock, stroking up and down slowly.” While it’s acceptable to sext in both 1st and 2nd person, I wouldn’t suggest the 3rd person. Referring to yourself in 3rd person is awkward. Past tense doesn’t work either.  So keep this in mind!

• Also, unless it’s a Dominant/submission relationship and you’re receiving instruction, make sure your messages go both ways. Give and receive. Fun must be had for all involved! If it is a D/s partner, there should still be responses. They may be of the nature of, “Yes, Mistress,” instead, though.

Sexting is more fun with people you've met in person!

While sexting is some serious fun, there are pitfalls to engaging sexually via electronics. I only engage with people that I know are over eighteen and able to consent. That means I only sext with people I’ve met. This frustrates people on OkCupid and FetLife, but those accounts are easy to fake your age. Many apps don’t have any age verification process either. Which isn’t good, if I’m sexting. So this is something to keep in mind when engaging in any sort of sexual, electronic experience.

Another problem comes with connected accounts. I can’t tell you all how many times I’ve almost posted a nude picture on Facebook! I also know a lot of people and have a lot of professional contacts listed in my phone. I use extreme caution when I’m sending any naughty message. With caution, accidents have happened! So be careful!

The smartphone that knows me so well

Smartphones are also a problem when they autocorrect. While most change a cuss word to ‘duck’ or ‘shut,' my phone is sooo smart and knows me sooo well, that it changes everyday words like ‘programming’ to ‘orgasm.' I run an org and recently needed to send out updated programming through my phone, and almost sent ‘change in orgasm’ to all the attendees!

Sexting is exciting, and I love that we have technology that allows us to be with our partner, even when that partner might be on the other side of the planet. We can see one another, send naughty messages, and even video chat while we masturbate! Just remember age matters. And sometimes, your smartphone might be too smart for your own good!

Sienna Saint-Cyr writes erotica and blogs about kink, poly, body image, and most things relating. Follow her on her website or on Twitter @siennasaintcyr.