Sex Tips | My Girlfriend is Turned On by MMF Threesomes

Looking for sex tips or relationship advice? Well, you're in luck! Sex columnist, photographer and sex blogger Molly Moore gives her best advice to a man who thinks his girlfriend wants to have an MMF threesome. 

 

Dear Molly

I have recently discovered that my girlfriend likes to watch porn that involves two men. She gets turned on watching stuff that is just two men getting it on. Her favourite seems to be a threesome scenario with two men with a woman. But the men are definitely into each other. I was shocked when she showed it to me. Although I think I did an excellent job of covering that up as she has continued to share with me some of the threesome porn that turns her on. But I have struggled to engage in a proper conversation with her about it.  

Do you think it is normal that she is turned on by watching threesomes with two guys together? Do you think that she is maybe trying to hint that she would like to have a threesome with me and another guy? Or does she wants me to get it on with another bloke? When I first watched some of the things she was sharing it made me uncomfortable. As time has gone on and I have watched some threesome clips more, I realise that I do find some of them sexy. Still, I find myself wondering if all this is normal or not?
Unsure Man

Dear Unsure Man
Firstly let me start with the fact that there is no such thing as 'normal'. Human sexuality is complex and diverse. The things that excite us are widespread and varied. Anyone who tells you any different or tries to imply that there is a normal way for someone to be is wrong. Being attracted to someone of the same sex, or turned on by watching two people of the same sex is very common. 

It is hard to say for sure what your girlfriend is hoping for when she shares these videos with you. She is trying to show you something she finds very erotic and sexy. That is excellent as it gives you both an opportunity to explore these desires together. Repressing them could lead to feelings of resentment that can result in a relationship ending. These fantasies might be something she would like to explore more with another person. Or perhaps she is just happy keeping it a fantasy. It will only become evident when you talk to her about it more.
 

MMF threesome - are you open to it?

My advice is to do that and do it soon. You seem to have managed to overcome your initial reaction fairly easy. You have even started to discover that you are turned on by the things your girlfriend is sharing with you. You have not allowed your initial reaction to cut you off from this. As a result, you have maybe discovered something new about yourself. That is a beautiful thing and something I would encourage you to capitalise on with your partner. I would be open with her about it all. Tell her you were not sure, but that you have found yourself enjoying some of the MMF threesome videos she is sharing. 
 

Share your fantasies and desires

Encourage her to share more and try to create an environment that makes her feel comfortable sharing her desires. You could also think about sharing something in return. Maybe you have something you like to fantasise about or porn that you particularly enjoy. There is no reason why you can't return the favour as then you can explore each other's fantasies.

MMF or MFM threesome

It is possible that your girlfriend might be interested in having an MMF threesome. An MFM threesome indicates that is a threesome where the men are not bi-sexual and do not engage in sexual contact directly. An MMF threesome is one where the men are bi-sexual or open to direct sexual contact. If you were setting up such a thing, it would be essential to communicate with the other person joining you beforehand. Clarify what level of physical contact you would be comfortable with in the threesome. This way no one ends up getting into something that was not what they were anticipating. 
 

Exploring the threesome fantasy

However, having an MMF or MFM threesome is not the place to start. It might turn out to be that you and your partner are more comfortable keeping this as a fantasy. Something you can enjoy together and not turning it into a real-life experience. But that is something you will discover over time as you talk to your girlfriend more. Getting better at sharing your mutual desires with one another will lead you to have a better and more exciting sex life.  

Molly x 
 

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