Back when I was eighteen and a recovering bulimic, Kate Harding changed my life forever. Until I discovered the truly incredible (and now late lamented) blog Shapely Prose it had never really
When me and my boyfriend decided that “monogamish” was an adjective better suited for us than “monogamous,” we started seeing the world differently. Each outing was an opportunity to meet
When my husband and I first went public about our polyamory/open marriage, we had no idea the amount of assumptions that would be made about our marriage. Some of them we laughed at, thinking
Have you ever been judged for dating older men? When I was little I heard some family members joke about our neighbor being a sugar daddy. At the time I thought they were talking about the
Two very close friends of mine have been in a monogamous relationship with each other for many years, but one of them has a long-standing habit of forming very
We and our media often talk about the “one” - our “one true love,” the person we’re fated to be with for the rest of our lives. We have this idea that “true” love
On a crowded train, you don't get to choose who you sit across from. In my case, my neighbor across the aisle was a soldier on his way to make a court appearance
Minor change here at Dear Abi: we’ve decided to switch to answering one question per column, to enable me to give your questions longer and more detailed answers. As always, you can ask
Years ago, when my decade long marriage opened up, it wasn’t all smooth sailing. The first time I went on a date with another man my husband had a very strong
Dear Abi,
I’ve been dating someone as their secondary partner for six months now. It’s going well, but the more time passes the more I realise that I want
Is rebound sex ever cool? Breaking up is no joke, but getting laid without making a commitment might just take the sting out of
Dear Abi,
I'm gay and in my early 20's, in a large American city. I've been dating a guy for the last eight months. It's not quite casual but not super
Dear Abi,
What's the deal with fisting? Is it a real thing that real people actually do, or is it just something that happens in porn films?
Dear Abi,
My wife and I have been happily married for fifteen years, and we have two children. Even at the beginning her sex drive was much lower than mine, but over time it’s dwindled
I was an adventurous teenager. I was lucky to have sought out good information about sex and to have connected with some great communities of people. At 17 years old I was already involved
Dear Abi,
I'm straight-ish woman in her early thirties, and I live in a large European capital. I’m newly out of a terribly codependent LTR, and I want to start dating again. I’ve
Dear Abi,
I'm a lesbian in my early thirties. I've known for a long time that I'm kinky, but all of my experience has been in the bedroom with long term partners. I'd like to start
One of my most recent articles here at Popcorn.dating was entitled Bad Advice and This Month in Glamour: ‘Let The Sex Games Begin’. I had a good old rant about how terrible the sex
There are no set rules for polyamory, and that's one of the best things about it. One of the more common models, though, is for an established couple to continue being each other's
Relationships are complicated. They are made especially complicated because media and society portray a certain kind of relationship—generally a monogamous, heterosexual,
I was sixteen years old the first time I got involved in a polyamorous relationship, and I haven’t gone back to monogamy since. One of the things I've noticed, over the years, is
If you get a group of bisexual women together to chat about dating women and what their sexuality is like for them in practice, there’s one thing you’ll hear over and over again: that however
What I look for in an online dating site
It's estimated that there are over 8,000 online dating sites worldwide, so in such a competitive market it's
1. The complete bullshitter
His profile says he’s 27, but that’s probably more relevant to the amount of hair on his head.
Sexual incompatibility, boredom, or the urge to explore another gender can be reasons to break up, but they can also be the grounds for opening up a relationship. Here's a list of things to