You've probably been giggling about the number 69 since you were in middle school. But have you tried it? Have you ever thought that it might be just what your relationship needs to deal with that thorny problem of not having simultaneous orgasms. One beautiful thing about 69ing is that it's the great equalizer. Men and women can do it, men and men, women and women, and anyone else. It also means that both people get to "give" and "receive", and at the same time. Many people think of 69 as foreplay only, but if you really put your heart into it and are willing to break a sweat, you might find it offers intense and simultaneous orgasms that can bring you closer than ever to your partner! Ready to get your bedroom acrobatics on? Read on for more ideas: Facesitting, Handjobs Foto Pixelio Wagschal
Alphabet soup time! B: bondage- physically or psychologically restricting movements of another. D: domination- having power or control over another. S: sadism- finding pleasure in causing pain to another. M: masochism- getting pleasure from receiving pain from another. Put it all together and what’ve you got? BDSM: a subculture shrouded in misconceptions. Your mind just probably flashed to latex catsuits and dungeons. Or CEOs being dominated by women with whips wearing unbelievably high stilettos. The BDSM world is unique in the fact it’s the leader in consent culture. Meaning it is psychologically speaking, a very healthy community. Everything done between partners is consensual and discussed beforehand whilst sober. You hear people talk a lot about ‘safe words’ and that’s where it comes from. Someone screaming ‘No! Please stop!’ can be a major turn on for some people, so when you hear ‘Reindeer!’ you know it’s time to immediately stop and check in. The intensity in BDSM relationship is based on handing over your trust to another person knowing that trust will not be broken. Everyone is equal in this world. A Bottom is in just as much control as the Top and vice versa. Pain is a natural fantasy most people have and when it’s discussed and consensual, exchanges can be incredible. But if the pain is a one-sided desire perhaps a bit of therapy is in order to discover where this want came from. For people unfamiliar with the BDSM world please don’t read or watch 50 Shades and think it’s a how-to-guide. Perhaps a how-to-NOT. If this world is interesting or exciting to you- get on some forums, check out your local kink clubs or munches and explore this often misunderstood world. Want to learn more about how to take a beating? Submission, Domination, Sadomasochism